One thing I really look forward to while still in my teenage years is to quickly become an adult.
Imaginations in my head about how I will eat two meats or even carry the pot with no one disturbing me(my african sisters and brothers know what I mean), how I would leave my parents house, constantly brooding over the freedom I will finally get to enjoy.
Believing that my parents don't understand. All is well.
Now I am finally wearing the trousers I have been admiring for so long.
I am over 18 now.
Hurray, welcome to a new world.
Where there are basic guidelines to follow if you don't want to end up on the bad side because just as there is that part of you eating two meats, there is also that part of you having boundaries, working and
oh wait we are moving too fast...
Lets rewind a bit;
That little girl is now in her early twenties.
Only now is she realizing that adulthood isn't just about eating two meats or the freedom you get to enjoy. Now it is clear to her that with the freedom comes responsibility, and that if she desires to eat two meats, she has to work to provide that for herself.
Series of thoughts in her head,
Where am I going?
What am I supposed to be doing with my life?
Do I go that way or take this route?
Am I supposed to be doing this?
Oh wait, did someone say imposter syndrome? yeah that too.
While she is still trying to answer these questions, she can hear the little conversations her mum is having with the aunties about marriage, she wonders "whose marriage" only for her to hear her name one time like that during one of those conversations.
Now questions are flying around, she can see the way her parents now looks at her like; "You are an adult now don't disappoint us". Her siblings now look up to her.
But am only trying to figure it out too, nobody told me I will have to be get up and do the work. I wasn't prepared for this. Another thing that hits her suddenly is her responsibility over her own emotions.
Emotions. Sorry what......EMOTIONS what are those?
They have territory here. They can make you to be perceived wrongly, you can easily get your way when you handle them right but if not they literally will betray you to your face. So even something in you will work either for you or fight you.
While I am just starting out, am slowly, gently but surely on this journey. A lot has shocked me ever since i have been on this journey but the one that actually shooked me to the wall is the relationship aspect.
Stepping into adulthood only for her to see that relationships operates differently here. People have boundaries, you don't walk to a stranger and say the three big words. You are now responsible to who you give your heart to. And even friendships.. wait what even my friends will change, I hate to break it to you but YES.
Friendships is not same as when you are in the high school.
Even your very playful and carefree friends are beginning to take their life seriously, your friends are doing something tangible while you are still trying to figure it out and also social media is not helping, even when you don't want to look they are there.
But one thing you should know is that amidst all these that is going on, you should take your time and just let things play out.
Not rushing the pace or wanting to do everything all at once.
The Marriage,Work and dreams will come to manifestation at the right time.
Another thing to keep in mind is that YOU matter.
YOU are the main character in this movie and always choose yourself. You are absolutely responsible for how you turn out later in the future, for the decisions you are making and will make, for your health, your relationships, finances and all.
While it is advisable to get mentors, accountability partner and all, at the end of the day YOUR VOICE MATTER.
Adulting isn't a Disneyland but it is a journey worth embarking on. It introduces YOU TO YOU.
So My Love whether you are just starting out or already on this beautiful road, a word of advise from me to you is For You to Embrace it, Enjoy it and Be You.
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